Confidence Makeover: Command a Room Like Nikki Glaser, JVN, and Other Celebrities
- CJ Norris
- Jan 26
- 4 min read
Updated: Jan 27
Have you ever seen a fashion piece and weren’t sure if it would suit you, but you tried it on anyway and loved it? Did it give you a new bounce in your step?
Finding your personal brand of confidence can be like getting a glow up, courtesy of What Not To Wear's Stacy London, or Tan France from Queer Eye. These fashion gurus envision a more evolved version of their clients, who are unable to see their own potential, and then they help them get there.
But on both of these shows, it's not just about making over someone's physical appearance. Both Stacy and Tan, along with their teammates, facilitate the internal growth that clients need to accompany their outward transformation.
If the subject in question is constantly hiding under baggy clothes and shaggy hair, their mentors will likely start with a self-esteem audit. By the end of an episode, we're usually able to see a major improvement in the client's confidence, thanks to inner and outer work done over just a few days. We can only hope that the evolution sticks, but it's up to each individual to continue breaking down their own walls.
Unfortunately, we can't all be lucky enough to get a TV makeover with their budget and team of experts. But we can give ourselves a mental makeover that I would argue is more viable in the long-term.
Try a DIY Confidence Makeover
Think of a person whose charismatic energy you admire. It can be a celebrity, a friend, or even a fictional character. Now choose the top quality that makes them engaging to watch and listen to.
The next time you're in a situation where you want to embody confidence—whether it’s a work meeting, a wedding toast, or just an everyday conversation—give that particular trait a whirl, like trying on a new fashion accessory.
We’re not talking about a top-to-bottom overhaul. You're not changing everything about yourself, or even the main outfit—you're just adding a bit of flavour that you find interesting or exciting. Like throwing on a cool hat to finish off a look. Think of it as amplifying what's already there.
Finding Your Confidence Style
There's no copy-and-paste solution to find your authentic voice. But you have to start somewhere, and make changes as you go.
Here are some potential 'confidence hats' that might speak to you.
Playful Sarcasm
Comedian Nikki Glazer's (Someday You'll Die, Good Clean Filth) comedic charm leans into honesty and fearless wit. She makes the audience feel at ease by evening the playing field. She doesn't throw punches at just one particular demographic, so everyone feels in on the jokes.
Style Tip: There's a fine line between being tongue-in-cheek and being crass. Be careful not to veer into mean girl territory.
Self-Deprecating Relatability
There's a disarming charm in a bit of self-deprication. John Mulaney exhibits this in his 2023 Netflix comedy special Baby J. He opens up about some of his darker times, weaving entertaining humour through his vulnerable storytelling. Ironically, sharing parts of ourselves that we aren't proud of can instil a sense of trust in listeners.
Style Tip: Strike a balance between self-awareness and esteem. A light jab at yourself can be endearing—but pair it with self-respect so you don’t undermine your own value.
Poised Elegance
Michelle Obama’s calm yet commanding presence reflects grace under pressure. She projects unwavering aplomb, matched by warmth and relatability. Her passion for uplifting women and children in particular is underlined by her sincerity and humanity.
Style Tip: Develop a steady tone with deliberate pauses, giving your audience moments to process and engage. Balance professional polish with genuine warmth.
Thoughtful Composure
Legendary actor Keanu Reeves (The Matrix, John Wick) is known for his gentle spirit and sage wisdom. He doesn't have to shout his point—his cool demeanour and grounding inspire audiences to lean in. Keanu is proof that confidence can be understated and still potent.
Style Tip: Practice active listening in conversation. When we're too concerned with what we're about to say, it dilutes our ability to speak earnestly and create a genuine impact.
Contagious Optimism
A major contrast to Reeve's restrained presence is the aforementioned beauty guru Jonathan Van Ness (he/she/they) from Netflix’s Queer Eye and Getting Curious.
JVN's unapologetic flamboyance comes from life experiences that would break down many folks. But Jonathan shows us how to see the sunny side of almost any situation. Her unadulterated positivity and cheerleader energy makes her a joy to watch and learn from.
Style Tip: Lead with empathy. Celebrate small victories in others, offer genuine compliments, and stay transparent about your own ups and downs.
We're Evolutionary Beings
Making adjustments to how you carry yourself never has to be finite. Try on a hat, and if it doesn’t fit your genuine vibe, put it back and try another one. It might feel a bit awkward at first, but there’s no growth without discomfort. You'll know when you've found the right stride.
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